Archive for the 'In the News' Category

Brangelina no more

Tuesday, September 20th, 2016

No one knows what goes on between a couple except the two people involved. Every relationship therapist (like myself) knows this. However, this fact won’t get in the way of all the speculation, hypothesizing, blaming, and innuendos that are sure to come now that the news of the Brangelina split has been confirmed.
Already there is […]

A monument to love lost

Sunday, September 18th, 2016

The Museum of Broken Relationships (yes, there is such a thing) was the brainchild of an artist (ex) couple who wondered what people actually do with all things that are reminders and remnants of their lost relationship. In 2006 they took this from idea to their first exhibit—and it took off, touring internationally before they […]

Nick Viall—A new type for Bachelor franchise

Saturday, September 10th, 2016

By now everyone who is familiar with the show, The Bachelor, knows that the new guy for the next season has been chosen. When the announcement was made, viewers were told they would be “shocked.” Probably not all were, I was not.
Reality TV is all about getting people to tune in, get excited, stay loyal—and […]

Carly and Evan—Love is worth a second look

Wednesday, September 7th, 2016

Most or all of us believe that love at first sight can happen, or that good friends could grow into lovers given the right mix of chemistry. But the idea of someone falling in love with a person they were initially repulsed by—now that is a shocker for most people. This is the love story […]

What your fantasies say about your relationship

Sunday, August 14th, 2016

Research has found that almost everyone has sexual fantasies, approximately 95 to 98% of people actually. This finding is that that surprising—at least to the 95% or so of us who have them. What may come as a surprise is that new research has found that relationships are improved and enhanced by fantasy—as long as […]

Advice to Bachelorettes in “Paradise”

Thursday, August 11th, 2016

I have been watching (and frequently cringing over) this season’s Bachelor in Paradise. From an abusive, over-muscled villain to an overserved female (and male) or two—the behavior on this Bachelor barely passes for unacceptable. But we continue to watch and ratings are probably strong. Why is this? Maybe these folks help us to feel superior, […]

Millennials rejecting the sexual revolution

Sunday, August 7th, 2016

The Washington Post has run a couple of pieces on the differences in sexual behavior between millennials and the generations just before them. It’s a very interesting topic because it delves into something that many have false assumptions about—the sexual behavior of this younger group.
Contrary to current myths (and urban legend) younger folks are […]

JoJo and Jordon and Robby—a greater love or a different love?

Wednesday, August 3rd, 2016

The latest season of the Bachelorette just wrapped up—and it was another (almost) tie. JoJo, who was herself in the same situation on the last season of The bachelor, was torn between two men that she had “fallen in love” with. Clearly she had strong feelings for both—but there was always a difference. Could you […]

Do you have a problematic relationship history? Blame your genes

Sunday, June 26th, 2016

It’s likely you have some familiarity with the term Emotional intelligence. You may even know about what it is, how to spot it in others—and how to improve yours for better relating. A new study is now pointing to our genes and how they might play a role in our EQ. Yes, this is interesting, […]

Happy couples don’t notice the attractiveness of others

Wednesday, June 15th, 2016

Scientists from Rutgers University and New York University recently concluded a set of experiments in which they found evidence that couples downgrade the attractiveness of individuals that they perceive as a threat to their relationships. The results were published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.
Therefore if you find yourself minimizing the looks of someone you […]