Archive for the 'In the News' Category

Are you putting your financial cart before your marriage horse?

Sunday, May 17th, 2015

In today’s Washington Post, Michelle Singletary has written a good piece on the wisdom (or not) of becoming financially committed to someone before deciding on marriage. In her column, The Color of Money, Ms. Singletary clearly states that she is not trying to make a judgment about the morality of living together before marriage—her concern […]

Proof that He puts appearance first

Monday, May 11th, 2015

Dr Rory McGloin from The University of Connecticut led a study that looked at the relationship between trust and appearance for those who use online dating sites to meet people. 305 men and women aged 17 to 36 stated that trust is an important part of a relationship for them. Yet when they got into […]

Is He a true partner or part time help?

Sunday, May 10th, 2015

The NY Times ran a good piece yesterday that really speaks to the worst kept secret of all women with male partners, married and unmarried. Women shoulder most of the responsibility of raising children, and too often, He helps out from time to time. The author, Judith Shulevitz talks about what sociologists sometimes call “worry […]

Is your dog a silent partner?

Wednesday, May 6th, 2015

The NY Times ran a fun piece “It’s me or the dog,” written by a single guy whose girlfriend wasn’t interested in sharing the bed with his dog. They had a long-distance relationship, so at first, his girlfriend was too jet lagged to make it an issue or maybe just happy to have some time […]

Do you/did you have a Jeremy in your life?

Saturday, May 2nd, 2015

The NY Times ran a very interesting piece—an essay by Jordana Narin, a sophomore at Columbia who is the winner of the Modern Love essay Contest. Ms. Narin’s piece is all about her “Jeremy,” who is the guy in the millennial generation that women “never really date and never really get over.” For older generations, […]

A top predictor of relationship happiness

Sunday, April 26th, 2015

As a psychotherapist and dating/relationship coach, I am frequently asked to weigh in on how someone can be sure they are choosing the right person when dating, or if they are married, if their spouse is the right one for them. My simple answer for years has been that healthy and mutually satisfying relationships are […]

Do you need an “Invisible Boyfriend?”

Saturday, April 25th, 2015

If there is a market for it, there is always an enterprising person that comes up with a new product to pitch. Single people have been lamenting for years about parents, extended family, co-workers, neighbors and even friends bugging them because they are not in a relationship. Questions like “Will you ever get serious?” “How […]

A cautionary tale about workplace dating

Sunday, April 19th, 2015

CNN ran a piece about a Congressman dating a lobbyist who interacts with the committee that he is chairman of. Congressman Shuster and Ms. Rubio have been involved since last summer. A clear conflict of interest has not yet been established, but it’s inevitable that we haven’t heard the last of this story. Careers have […]

The NY Times on Emotional Intelligence

Wednesday, April 15th, 2015

Daniel Goleman, a Harvard trained psychologist, past science writer for the NY Times, and author of the book Emotional Intelligence penned a column on April 7th titled, How to be emotionally intelligent. It’s written in a very straightforward style, in which he outlines the competencies of EQ.
I found this piece to be very user friendly […]

Marrying outside of your class

Sunday, March 29th, 2015

Jessi Streib, an assistant professor of sociology at Duke University, has written a book titled The power of the Past: Understanding Cross-class marriages. As a therapist who specializes in working with couples on their relationships, I have found this book to be a very interesting study on attraction and conflict in relationships and how differences […]