Archive for the 'In the News' Category

A top predictor of relationship happiness

Sunday, April 26th, 2015

As a psychotherapist and dating/relationship coach, I am frequently asked to weigh in on how someone can be sure they are choosing the right person when dating, or if they are married, if their spouse is the right one for them. My simple answer for years has been that healthy and mutually satisfying relationships are […]

Do you need an “Invisible Boyfriend?”

Saturday, April 25th, 2015

If there is a market for it, there is always an enterprising person that comes up with a new product to pitch. Single people have been lamenting for years about parents, extended family, co-workers, neighbors and even friends bugging them because they are not in a relationship. Questions like “Will you ever get serious?” “How […]

A cautionary tale about workplace dating

Sunday, April 19th, 2015

CNN ran a piece about a Congressman dating a lobbyist who interacts with the committee that he is chairman of. Congressman Shuster and Ms. Rubio have been involved since last summer. A clear conflict of interest has not yet been established, but it’s inevitable that we haven’t heard the last of this story. Careers have […]

The NY Times on Emotional Intelligence

Wednesday, April 15th, 2015

Daniel Goleman, a Harvard trained psychologist, past science writer for the NY Times, and author of the book Emotional Intelligence penned a column on April 7th titled, How to be emotionally intelligent. It’s written in a very straightforward style, in which he outlines the competencies of EQ.
I found this piece to be very user friendly […]

Marrying outside of your class

Sunday, March 29th, 2015

Jessi Streib, an assistant professor of sociology at Duke University, has written a book titled The power of the Past: Understanding Cross-class marriages. As a therapist who specializes in working with couples on their relationships, I have found this book to be a very interesting study on attraction and conflict in relationships and how differences […]

Can you increase your happiness and attractiveness to others?

Saturday, March 7th, 2015

The New York Times is running an interesting piece called “The feel Good Gene.” Essentially the author, Richard Friedman, MD talks about how some people are less prone to anxiety and drug use to control it, due to a gene variation in the brain that leaves some folks less anxious and fearful. A higher level […]

Online dating–Scammers masquerading as potential soul mates

Tuesday, March 3rd, 2015

In his Washington Post column today, John Kelly writes his second piece on online romance scams. Apparently these are growing more abundant and many of the perps are from places like Nigeria. They masquerade as everything from Special Forces troops to regular guys, looking for a real romance. After establishing an online relationship with a […]

The bachelor’s problem? Arlington, Iowa

Tuesday, February 17th, 2015

Chris Soules is ABC’s present Bachelor in its reality series by the same name—and for an attractive and successful guy, he has certainly had problems finding a woman he can settle down with. This past week, I think The Bachelor audience got a good glimpse into the problem—Arlington, Iowa, population 427. The “town” is easy […]

Women working harder in the boardroom and the kitchen

Saturday, February 7th, 2015

The NY Times has a great piece running on how women are often the ones in the office who volunteer to step up and help other employees, plan an office party, offer extra mentoring to new hires, and/or stay late when a project needs someone to put in more hours. In this piece titled Madam […]

The Bachelor—More drama than reality?

Wednesday, February 4th, 2015

If you follow the reality dating show, The bachelor, you will vividly remember how the last episode ended–with Kelsey hyperventilating on the floor. A paramedic was quickly on site and giving her oxygen and her crisis seemed more emotional than physical, most likely a panic attack. This followed closely on the heels of her abruptly […]