Ashley Madison users exposed

Hackers who call themselves the “Impact Team” have hacked and then released information from Ashley Madison, the #1 website for cheating spouses. After the site was hacked, those of us who live in or very near the Nation’s Capital have been holding our breath as DC is listed as one of the top users of Ashley Madison’s services. Who would have thought a place like DC would need any assistance with this kind of thing—perhaps they believed it would be safer to hunt away from work and neighborhood connections, in a place where they could better shield their identity. How could they be so naïve you ask? Given all the hacks of top level government sites and large retail corporations, it was only a matter of time.

Those who have been cheated on have been positively gleeful at the potential for exposure, smiling as they mention how karma works. For those who have been doing the cheating, the tension and fear of exposure must be awful. We can only imagine all the profiles being deleted, and cell phones and personal devices being scrubbed of all data. Inattentive husbands and wives may suddenly have reverted to courting behavior, wooing their spouses with romantic notes, lighted candles in the bedrooms, flowers, and dinners out to a favorite and almost forgotten place. If their name pops up on a list they can say, “But darling, all my thoughts, gestures and time have been spent on you.”

To add injury to insult, credit cards numbers have been released along with customer names and other information. One has to wonder if these hackers were once cheated on spouses. Apparently the hackers warned this would happen if the site was not taken down, and when this was ignored, they went diving for data. Therefore, it’s believed their motive was not about money, but that they were driven by a moral motivation.

I think many folks will be speculating about who these hackers are, and where they might strike next. Lord knows, the internet is web with “sin” and could keep the moral police occupied for a long time. Note to those who are bored in their marriages and relationships. To those who seek some extra excitement and the fun that seems to have left their relationships with their partners—be careful of what you wish for. If your name is on that list, you will gets lots of excitement, it won’t be boring, and the adrenaline rush will be extreme if/when your participation becomes known.

I have no intention of offering tips on better ways to cheat. However, finding your thrills online is not safe and anonymous, and therefore, free of consequences as you may have told yourself. Please think about what you have to lose before you go looking for intimacy somewhere else. And consider investing more in what you already have. What you need might have been there all along, but somehow you both misplaced the connection to it.

There’s no honor among cheaters

There are a couple of cautionary tales to this story. One is that some websites lie outright and others play with the truth through omissions, false promises- and sexy and untruthful marketing. The second is that if someone is capable of lying to someone else, they will do the same to you if it was in their best interest.

Ashley Madison is a website created for married people who want to cheat on their spouses. Apparently it is doing well and growing. A new Portuguese language version of the site was being launched and its creators hired a woman to write fake profiles of sexy, beautiful women that would draw lots of male users. According to this employee her job required her to write 1,000 fake profiles in three weeks and she is now suing Ashley Madison due to a disability caused by the enormous amount of keyboarding she had to do. The employee, Doriana Silva is seeking a total of 20 million to compensate for her being used this way for their enrichment and 1 million for general damages. According to Silva, she had no idea that what she was doing was deceitful; instead she believed it was a normal practice in this industry.

So, we have a website designed to help married people cheat, a company making large profits by providing a service that encourages and enables infidelity, and an ex-employee who says that she had no idea the 1,000 fake profiles she wrote were wrong and should be better compensated due to their high profits and the harm she suffered providing all those fake profiles to deceive potential users.

The suit was filed last year but is caught up in legal limbo. Best case scenario, they would go broke from the suit and all the bad publicity- and this woman would be truly unable to keyboard again. If you are thinking about cheating due to boredom, a lack of good sex, or any reason someone would cheat rather than get a divorce- consider your next moves carefully. You could end up with a fake new lust object and a marriage headed to divorce court.