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Dear Dating Coach,
I met this girl on a social networking website, and I'm starting to fall for her. We talk every once in while, probably about once a week, and met for the first (and only) time about 4 months ago. I would like to talk to her more often to get to know her better, but I've never flirted online and I have no clue on how to do this, so I need some advice in that department. Also, I was wondering whether it would be a good idea to send her a e-greeting or something for Valentine's day, and if I should, then what kind of greeting; friendly or romantic, e-greeting or something self-made, funny or serious. The thing that worries me in this situation is that a Valentine's card would seem like something coming out of left field, and may strike her as odd, or even worse, desperate, which I don't want to come off as being.

-Dazed and Confused

You sound like anything but as you appear to have good insight and none of the stalker in you- a great start to any relationship.

If you know how to flirt offline, you will have no trouble doing it online. Be YOURSELF. Don't tell her what you are about- show her. For instance, if you are funny- be funny instead of talking about how funny you are. Don't hold back as you wait for a strong signal or green light from her. She may be shy or believe that if you were really interested you would ( and should) indicate this directly to her. Some things will never really change- and a woman's discomfort with making the first move seems to be one of them.

An e-greeting that is funny, light and friendly sounds pretty appropriate to me. If she balks at this and/or reacts very negatively- you will know she is not the girl for you or that she feels it is too soon in the relationship for a Valentine’s Day greeting. If she is receptive, suggest another face to face meeting. Come up with a simple and fun activity that will help the two of you get to know each other in a relaxed and "candid" setting.

Think about what you could gain (or loose) if you are not willing to take a chance on love

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Dating advice. Ask the dating coach! Online dating advice for men and women

Dear Dating Coach - February 2007

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